UNDERSTANDING GRAPHS – AN EASY WAY TO UNDERSTAND SEX METHOD

The Sex God Method is a dynamic system. The basic idea behind it is that all Four Elements are critical to sexual mastery. Although there is a usual order in which to escalate the Elements, it is possible to escalate them in any order or combination. A guiding principle to use when modeling your sexual encounters with DEVI is that of the weakest link. This substantially below the others, the quality of your sex will be limited to how much progress you have made in this Element.Element later on, you will learn when you can break this rule and make your sex temporarily unbalanced in the short term, but in the long term you want to escalate each sexual Element in a balanced way.

To improve yourself in bed, reflect on your behavior and determine which sexual Element you are weakest in. Then, concentrate your efforts on improving this Element. To describe sexual situations in terms of the Sex God Method, this book will often use bar graphs. In these graphs, D will stand for Dominance, E for Emotion, V for Variety, and I for Immersion. In each Element, the higher the bar is, the more appeal the person or situation has in that Element.

Let’s go back to our archetypes of bad sexual lovers from Chapter 3 for a moment, and diagnose their problems through DEVI graphs. Recall, The Emotionless Robot, who does everything else right, but is unable to feel strong emotions or evoke and sustain strong emotions in the girl. You can see that his graph is unbalanced, with Emotion being the weak link. In this case, becoming more skilled in the other Elements won’t do this guy any good. If he wants to become better in bed, he should concentrate on injecting more Emotion into his sex life. This will balance his graph, and eliminate this is used most in sex.

Dominanceattractive man, you will see a core of Dominance.

Not only is Dominance important, it is fundamental. This means that, a base level of Dominance is required to achieve success in the other three sexual Elements. For this reason,Dominance should be the first area of focus if you are a sexual novice.The way in which I discovered the importance of Dominance was through one of my first girlfriends. I had slowly been getting more dominant and realizing that girls were turned on by dominant guys, but the real breakthrough came one day with her in bed.We hadn’t seen each other for a while, and she was horny. That night we went out to a club together. She wore a skintight black dress, with black heels that screamed “fuck me.” We spent the night drinking and dancing together, with her rubbing her ass harder and harder against my crotch as we danced deep into the night. When we got back to my apartment and we will fuck get toghter.

At every point I expected her to tell me to stop, but every time I treated her more roughly, she got more turned on. She was talking dirty, and this girl was the master of talking dirty. At one point while I was fucking her from behind, she panted “Fuck me Dan, make me your bitch, make me scream so that everyone knows that I’m your bitch.” And I did. I railed the shit out of her doggy style for half an hour, and afterwords she told me it was the best sex she ever had. It was the best sex that I had ever had too. We both passed out afterwords, exhausted and sexually fulfilled. The funny thing was, the next morning she woke up and noticed that she was bleeding from her vagina.

I’d fucked her so hard that I’d ruptured something internally inside her, and she was in serious pain. Obviously, I’d fucked her way too hard for it to be physically pleasurable by itself. What I did to her would have been incredibly painful had it not been during sex. Yet, because she had the psychological stimulation of being dominated, she couldn’t even feel the pain at the time. It felt intensely pleasurable. Now this is an extreme case, but it did teach me a couple of important things.

First, that Dominance is a huge turn on for women. They need it and crave it. This girl was unusually sexually uninhibited and could say it to me. However, most girls are too inhibited to ask for it or even know consciously that they want it (even though they do). Secondly, it taught me the importance of psychological over physical stimulation. Even though that night I had provided horrible physical stimulation to the point where it should have been painful, the psychological stimulation I provided was so good that it overrode the physical aspects.

POSITIONS BONDAGE DOMINANT SEXUAL POSITIONS AND LIGHT BONDAGE

Certain sexual positions are more dominant that others. Fucking doggy style is very dominant. She is on her hands and knees in front of you taking your cock, while you are towering above her thrusting. Her lying face down while you are on top of her is also dominant. Fucking a girl hard, deep and fast is dominant. This is what makes it good the physical component of rough sex alone is not. If you see girls masturbating, you won’t see them pounding the shit out of themselves.

They use moderate size vibrators and gentle, slow strokes. But, almost all women like to be fucked hard because they get off on being dominated so completely. Especially when your girl is highly aroused and has a level of Immersion which will sustain a high level of Dominance, don’t hesitate to use some force when fucking her. Light bondage is also a good way to put her in submissive positions. You don’t need to go out and buy a torture rack bondage is most effective when it doesn’t seem contrived.

The best responses I’ve had from girls are when I tie them up with a piece of my own clothing or theirs tie works well for this. Tell her you are my little pussy…I’m going to tie you up and fuck you so hard. Then, take her hands and tie them together in a secure, but not viciously tight knot.
Excessive tightness will make her hands fall asleep, which is annoying and will break her Immersion. You can either tie her hands in front of her or behind her back. Try both, and see which one she likes better. Then, fuck her in a dominant way, throwing in plenty of dirty and emotional talk. Emotion permeates every aspect of sex. A master of sex must also be a master of creating strong emotions. I can hear the objections already… “But I’m a tough guy manly man! I don’t want to deal with any emotional crap. That may be. However, this comes from a place of weakness. Guys who will not or cannot open themselves emotionally are that way for a reason: they are afraid of being hurt. This is common in guys who were formerly rejected frequently by women, but improved their social skills. The fear of rejection they inherited from their past of social failure carries over to the present.

This causes them to put up emotional walls around themselves. Their self destructive behavior sabotages their sex lives and relationships. If you can create strong emotions in a woman, the sex with her will be much better Period. For you, and especially for her. A woman will never be truly satisfied with emotionless sex; it is just something to tide her over until she can find successfully satisfying sexual relationship. Once she finds that, you’re gone. And, once you stop restricting yourself to platonic “friends with benefits,” you’ll be surprised by how much better the sex is for you as well. The superior sexual pleasure you can create with strong emotions will also make your girls much more loyal to you. If you’re interested in an exclusive relationship, this is obviously important. But even if you are not, making your girlfriends loyal will benefit your relationship life immensely. You will get much higher levels of compliance with ease.

A highly converted girl with a strong emotional attachment to you will almost never have sex with other men, even though she knows that you are having sex with other women. And, she’ll gladly clear her schedule for you, do favors for you, and pay for dates and gifts if the sex is good enough. Although women are conditioned by society to want an exclusive relationship with guys they have strong emotions for, with proper management jealousy can be almost eliminated. The important thing is to get her so strongly attached to you that it would hurt too much for her to ever leave you.

Once you can achieve this, she will accept any terms that you set for the relationship. If you frame it in the right way and make her feel well qualified, she will be just as satisfied with this type of relationship as with an exclusive relationship.

TECHNICIAN THE BEDROOM TECHNICIAN

The Bedroom Technician knows everything about sex. After his first few sexual experiences were embarrassing and Frustrating he went on a quest to become a bedroom stud that women would sexually respond to. To this end, he’s bought endless books on sexual technique. He’s spent countless nights reading information on the internet, continually learning new sexual positions, new ways to hit the G-spot, new ways to do everything. He always craves more information about sex. No matter how much he’s read it’s never enough, he always wants to know more, more, more.

To The Bedroom Technician, sex is a matter of angles and inches, positions and correct stimulation. Everything he does in bed is technically perfect. He’ll even log onto the internet and give advice, and guys will look up to him as an online sex guru.

Despite all his knowledge, his girlfriend is frustrated with him. She wants a man to fuck her, not a scientist performing gynecology experiments. He doesn’t understand that complex physical technique really doesn’t make you any better in bed. It sounds impressive on an Internet forum, but in real life it’s ineffective.

Ultimately, the problem of The Bedroom Technician is that he thinks too much and tries to “figure out” sex. Instead of doing this, he should use basic physical technique and concentrate his efforts on providing extraordinary psychological stimulation.

What do all of these archetypes have in common?Each one of them represents someone who is deficient in one of the fourth elements of sexuality. More specifically, someone who is deficient in one of the Four psychological Elements of sexuality.These psychological Elements are the foundation of good sex.

MONOTONOUSTHE MONOTONOUS PLODDER

The Monotonous Plodder will have sex with a girl a few times, and it’ll be great. She’ll cum multiple times and start to develop strong emotions towards him. Because he’s doingeverything right in the bedroom, she soon wants a relationship with him.
The problem is, after the initial “honeymoon” period of the relationship, the sex starts to go downhill. It’s nothing sudden or dramatic, but after a while it just doesn’t seem like the
spark is there anymore. The girl loses interest, and breaks up with him.

The Monotonous Plodder will then write this off as inevitable, because people inevitably get bored with having sex with each other for an extended period of time. But this isn’t true. A guy who is creative and good in bed can keep a sexual relationship fresh and exciting for a lifetime.

So then, what was the plodder’s mistake? He was doing everything right in the beginning. What he didn’t realize though, is that too much of a good thing is a bad thing. He didn’t add any Variety into the sexual relationship. Instead of an irresistible desire, sex became a scheduled obligation for the girl. She knew exactly what was going to happen, when it
was going to happen, and how it was going to happen. This monotony killed the sexual attraction she felt for him.

THE EMOTIONLESS ROBOTROBOT

Maybe you know a guy who picks up a lot of girls. You can see it as soon as you look at him. As soon as he rolls into a room, he just oozes coolness and high value. He doesn’t react emotionally to anything a girl might throw at him. And, this behavior is highly effective at getting girls into bed. (In fact, I recommend being emotionally unreactive to a degree in order to pick up girls.)

The problem The Emotionless Robot has is that he carries his lack of Emotion into the bedroom. He doesn’t even like sex that much. His main motivation for picking up girls isn’t sex –it’s validation. It’s the thrill of the hunt, and the ego boost he gets every time he realizes that he can actually have sex with an attractive woman. In other words, he doesn’t actually enjoy having sex; he just enjoys the fact that he’s having sex.

And although he puts up a front of being cool and untouchable, The Emotionless Robot is actually afraid. He is afraid to open himself up emotionally to a woman. Because of this, sex with an emotionless robot has a platonic, detached “friend with benefits” feel. He is completely emotionally invulnerable, and can feel neither pain nor passion.

The Emotionless Robot’s partner perceives this lack of passion, and it curtails her own emotions. Because Emotion is so important for good sex, especially for women, the sex is poor.

TECHNICIANTHE BEDROOM TECHNICIAN

The Bedroom Technician knows everything about sex. After his first few sexual experiences were embarrassing and frustrating, he went on a quest to become a bedroom stud that women would sexually respond to.

To this end, he’s bought endless books on sexual technique. He’s spent countless nights reading information on the internet, continually learning new sexual positions, new ways to hit the G-spot, new ways to do everything. He always craves more information about sex. No matter how much he’s read it’s never enough, he always wants to know more, more,more.

To The Bedroom Technician, sex is a matter of angles and inches, positions and correct stimulation. Everything he does in bed is technically perfect. He’ll even log onto the internet and give advice, and guys will look up to him as an online sex guru.

Despite all his knowledge, his girlfriend is frustrated with him. She wants a man to fuck her, not a scientist performing gynecology experiments. He doesn’t understand that
complex physical technique really doesn’t make you any better in bed. It sounds impressive on an internet forum, but in real life it’s ineffective.

Ultimately, the problem of The Bedroom Technician is that he thinks too much and tries to “figure out” sex. Instead of doing this, he should use basic physical technique and
concentrate his efforts on providing extraordinary psychological stimulation.

What do all of these archetypes have in common?
Each one of them represents someone who is deficient in one of the Four Elements of sexuality. More specifically, someone who is deficient in one of the Four psychological Elements of sexuality. These psychological Elements are the foundation of good sex.