OVERSTIMULATION

A common sexual problem with men is their obsession with the physical. Men frequently approach becoming good in bed with a problem-solving mentality, similar to learning how to

play chess. They think of women like machines. Rub the machine in a certain way for a certain amount of time, and bam, it produces an orgasm.

The reason why this mentality is incorrect is that it totally neglects the psychological aspect of sex. Although it is harder to see and understand than the physical, it is much more

important. Let me explain why:

Men spend billions of dollars every year on making themselves more attractive to the opposite sex. Whether it is on clothes, or on dates, or on seduction workshops, we each expend huge amounts of our time and money in order to make ourselves attractive for women. Yet, for about fifty bucks you could buy a sex toy which replicates the feeling of a vagina almost exactly.

So, why isn’t sex obsolete? Why don’t we just buy the toy, and consider this part of our life handled?

The answer is because while sex toys can provide physical stimulation, they can’t provide psychological stimulation. And, psychological stimulation is the most important aspect

of sex. Mere physical stimulation is just “getting off.”  Extraordinary psychological stimulation combined with basic physical stimulation is mind-blowing. Imagine the difference between masturbating and having sex with a beautiful woman. That is the difference that psychological stimulation makes.

Although psychological stimulation is important for men, it is ten times more important for women. Consider this: there are hundreds of different sex toys on the market. Women can

buy vibrators, dildos, vibrating dildos anything their hearts desire to give them absolutely perfect physical stimulation. In fact, many women do buy these toys to use for times they

can’t get sex. But, ask any woman and you will find out that these toys are a poor substitute for the real thing. Women don’t fantasize about buying a dozen batteries for their rabbit on a Saturday night and vibrating the shit out of themselves. They fantasize about sex.

It should be obvious that the key to becoming great in bed does not lie in ways to stimulate the body; it lies in ways to stimulate the mind. While physical technique has its place,

what will really drive a woman crazy is knowing how to arouse her on all the psychologically. Combine this arousal with basic physical technique, and you have a recipe for great sex.