INSTINCT AND DESIRE OVER TECHNIQUE

As I said before, men frequently approach sex with a problem-solving mentality. They think that if they just learn the right moves, they will get a woman off. They buy endless sex books, hoping to mask their innate sexual deficiencies and insecurities with complex techniques learned from manuals.

This doesn’t work. What a woman wants is not a man who is an expert on the anatomy of the vagina, or someone who knows fifty-three different cunningulus techniques. What a woman truly wants is a man who understands sex at a deep level, who is in touch with his animal desires and free of inhibiting social conditioning. A man who is conscious that both he and the woman are beings designed for sex, and who can help her get in touch with her own animal nature.

It is overly simplistic to say that this means you should just “be natural” in bed. We are all deeply ingrained with social programming, which we cannot just forget on command. In addition to this, we all have insecurities which will prevent us from getting in touch with our true instincts. The process of overcoming these insecurities and breaking out of what a man “should” do in bed can be extremely difficult sometimes, but it is the only way to achieve sexual mastery. Learning complex techniques is never a good substitute. Although there are some techniques which are useful to know, I have found that achieving sexual mastery is not a matter of unlearning. learning. Largely, it is a matter of unlearning.